Thursday, October 20, 2011

Death,Grief and Afterwards

What is grief?
The reaction we experience when we lose something- closed ones,an object dear to heart,a changed situation and a different mindset. Everything stops or pauses- all our routine work, activities and plans.  

My aunt and her husband died around a month ago in US. For many days I was thinking about them. They were relatives who we had lost touch for around 15 years. Because of FB and other easy calling facilities we got in touch again. Now after the grief I feel sad for another reason - that we couldn't keep in touch sooner.

Wherever they are, can they see us ? feel our love for us? her sisters are griefstricken.Hopefully work will keep them busy. Different people have different way of reacting to pain.Some express it ,some don't. For some the realisation comes late.

Ultimately,we are left with thoughts of - 'could have done this'...' what if they had not taken that drive that night?' .... could have beens and should have beens. When you go ,you just go. Period.

Yes I had the same thoughts,but slightly different. I wish I had kept in touch. Or they had.... I wish distances were not this big. I wish people would make better use of their phone. I wish.....

Well we can just pray and do our bit ,right?

1 comment:

  1. Like it :) Only when they are gone do we think if only we could have had spent more time together. Time is so important in any relationship.

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